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I’ve been on this Earth for 35 years, and here is what I’ve learned. What about you?

If you always seem to have drama in your life, you are probably the one causing the drama.
If customer service representatives or restaurant servers always seem to be rude to you, you are probably the one being rude.
If your computer always seems to be freezing up on you, you’re probably doing something wrong.
In my experience, drama begets drama, rudeness begets rudeness, and ineptitude begets ineptitude.
Edit: One last lesson – The lessons you pick up in life, whether they increase happiness or reduce unhappiness, work for you. They may work for others, but they probably don’t work for everyone. But it’s fun to share them.

 

28 year old reporting in?
Kids are fucking expensive.
I still haven’t a clue what I want to be when I grow up.
Education is taken for granted.
Travelling the world should be mandatory.
Computer games are still awesome.
Most of the stuff on the news is bullshit.
No-one is keeping count of how often you fuck up.
EDIT: Ummm….holy fuck.
I stand by my advice/lessons learned. A lot of North Americans appear to take exception to my ‘travel the world’ advice. For the record, I was born & raised in Ireland, I don’t have a degree, I don’t come from a wealthy family, I never had much money yet I’ve lived & worked in Thailand, California, New Zealand, Australia, Czech Republic & England. How? Because I fucking chose to and had the balls to follow through. Just do it for fuck sake.

 

42 – Married – Cancer Survivor
Relax. Very few things really matter and no one gets out alive anyway.
Concentrate on what matters. Are you happy?
You only have room for so many people in your life. Choose wisely, and don’t be afraid to fire someone.
You reap what you sow. This is true in every fucking way imaginable
You don’t have to tolerate bullshit, but….
Pick your battles wisely.
Stay in shape.
Learn how to listen to your intuition.
You’ll go crazy worrying about all the things that could go wrong. Inevitably, some of them will and you should be prepared, but most of the time things go surprisingly well. Be prepared for success as well as failure.
Amor Fati.
Fortune favors the bold.
Study history.
Be forgiving and allow yourself to be forgiven.
Everyone you meet has something they can teach you.

 

Whatever you’re complaining about almost always sounds trivial to someone else.

The world starts where your comfort zone ends.

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24. Haven’t learned much, but:
the one who loves the least controls the relationship
lying depresses the spirit. do it as infrequently as possible.
sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes you’re behind. the race is long, and in the end, its only with yourself.

 

If you need to make a decision flip a coin. Because in that moment the coin is in the air you’ll realise what it really is you want.

If your friend starts a fight club and you can’t seem to stop it and everyone thinks you’re your friend, you probably started the fight club.

 

Also 35 years old.
One of the best ways to change yourself is to pretend to be the person you want to be. It’s practice.
Spending time alone and being lonely are two different things. One is completely in your head.
Trying to impress people is generally counter productive. Impress yourself.
Often the only thing you have direct control over is your reaction to people and situations. It is amazing how much control you can have over everything else by paying attention to your response to stimulus.
Start assuming that anyone being a dick to you is having an unbelievably bad/day/week/life. Kindness is both effective and disarming. Also, it will make them feel much worse about being a dick much faster than being a dick back to them.
Taking care of other people is awesome. If you are not taking care of yourself, you cannot effectively help other people. Seek support for yourself where appropriate.
If you do not ask for what you want, nobody is going to know to give it to you.
Not knowing what to do is normal. Not being paralyzed by it, and finding a way to figure out what to do is extraordinary.
Extra research is always good. Except when someone you love has cancer and you are trying find comfort in the odds of their recovery.
If you just show up to a job interview presenting yourself as though you give a damn, and are a nice, reasonable person, you have already beat out 50%+ of the applicants.
Introverts should not feel bad for not being extroverts.
Science: It works, bitches.

Never talk about someone behind their back. It will find it’s way back to them.

 

Bonus: The six ways you will see your dad.