{"id":4842,"date":"2012-02-03T08:53:01","date_gmt":"2012-02-03T15:53:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bspcn.com\/?p=4842"},"modified":"2012-02-04T09:02:01","modified_gmt":"2012-02-04T16:02:01","slug":"30-things-to-stop-doing-to-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/localhost\/wordpress\/2012\/02\/03\/30-things-to-stop-doing-to-yourself\/","title":{"rendered":"30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"

Written by\u00a0marcandangel<\/a><\/p>\n

\"30<\/p>\n

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When you stop chasing the wrong things you give
\nthe right things a chance to catch you.
\n<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

As Maria Robinson once said, \u201cNobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.\u201d\u00a0 Nothing could be closer to the truth.\u00a0 But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.<\/p>\n

Here are some ideas to get you started:<\/p>\n

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  1. Stop spending time with the wrong people.<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.\u00a0 If someone wants you in their life, they\u2019ll make room for you.\u00a0 You shouldn\u2019t have to fight for a spot.\u00a0 Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth.\u00a0 And remember, it\u2019s not the people that stand by your side when you\u2019re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you\u2019re at your worst that are your true friends.<\/li>\n
  2. Stop running from your problems.<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 Face them head on.\u00a0 No, it won\u2019t be easy.\u00a0 There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them.\u00a0 We aren\u2019t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems.\u00a0 That\u2019s not how we\u2019re made.\u00a0 In fact, we\u2019re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall.\u00a0 Because that\u2019s the whole purpose of living \u2013 to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time.\u00a0 This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.<\/li>\n
  3. Stop lying to yourself.<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can\u2019t lie to yourself.\u00a0 Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.\u00a0\u00a0Read\u00a0The Road Less Traveled<\/a>\"\".<\/em><\/li>\n
  4. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner.<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.\u00a0 Yes, help others; but help yourself too.\u00a0 If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.<\/li>\n
  5. Stop trying to be someone you\u2019re not.<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that\u2019s trying to make you likeeveryone else.\u00a0 Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you.\u00a0 Don\u2019t change so people will like you.\u00a0 Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.<\/li>\n
  6. Stop trying to hold onto the past.<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 You can\u2019t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.<\/li>\n
  7. Stop being scared to make a mistake.<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing.\u00a0 Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success.\u00a0 You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.<\/li>\n
  8. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes.<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us.\u00a0 We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past.\u00a0 But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future.\u00a0 Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.<\/li>\n
  9. Stop trying to buy happiness.<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 Many of the things we desire are expensive.\u00a0 But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free \u2013 love, laughter and working on our passions.<\/li>\n
  10. Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness.<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 If you\u2019re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won\u2019t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either.\u00a0 You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else.\u00a0\u00a0Read\u00a0Stumbling on Happiness<\/a>\"\".<\/em><\/li>\n
  11. Stop being idle.<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 Don\u2019t think too much or you\u2019ll create a problem that wasn\u2019t even there in the first place.\u00a0 Evaluate situations and take decisive action.\u00a0 You cannot change what you refuse to confront.\u00a0 Making progress involves risk.\u00a0 Period!\u00a0 You can\u2019t make it to second base with your foot on first.<\/li>\n
  12. Stop thinking you\u2019re not ready.<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises.\u00a0 Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won\u2019t feel totally comfortable at first.<\/li>\n
  13. Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons.<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 Relationships must be chosen wisely.\u00a0 It\u2019s better to be alone than to be in bad company.\u00a0 There\u2019s no need to rush.\u00a0 If something is meant to be, it will happen \u2013 in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you\u2019re ready, not when you\u2019re lonely.<\/li>\n
  14. Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn\u2019t work.<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 In life you\u2019ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet.\u00a0 Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you.\u00a0 But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.<\/li>\n
  15. Stop trying to compete against everyone else.<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 Don\u2019t worry about what others are doing better than you.\u00a0 Concentrate on beating your own records every day.\u00a0 Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.<\/li>\n
  16. Stop being jealous of others.<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 Jealousy is the art of counting someone else\u2019s blessings instead of your own.\u00a0 Ask yourself this:\u00a0 \u201cWhat\u2019s something I have that everyone wants?\u201d<\/li>\n
  17. Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself.<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 Life\u2019s curveballs are thrown for a reason \u2013 to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you.\u00a0 You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough.\u00a0 But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past.\u00a0 You\u2019ll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation.\u00a0 So smile!\u00a0 Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.<\/li>\n
  18. Stop holding grudges.<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 Don\u2019t live your life with hate in your heart.\u00a0 You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate.\u00a0 Forgiveness is not saying, \u201cWhat you did to me is okay.\u201d\u00a0 It is saying, \u201cI\u2019m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.\u201d\u00a0 Forgiveness is the answer\u2026 let go, find peace, liberate yourself!\u00a0 And remember, forgiveness is not just for other people, it\u2019s for you too.\u00a0 If you must, forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time.<\/li>\n
  19. Stop letting others bring you down to their level.<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.<\/li>\n
  20. Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others.<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 Your friends don\u2019t need it and your enemies won\u2019t believe it anyway.\u00a0 Just do what you know in your heart is right.<\/li>\n
  21. Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break.<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 The time to take a deep breath is when you don\u2019t have time for it.\u00a0 If you keep doing what you\u2019re doing, you\u2019ll keep getting what you\u2019re getting.\u00a0 Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.<\/li>\n
  22. Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments.<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things.\u00a0 The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.<\/li>\n
  23. Stop trying to make things perfect.<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 The real world doesn\u2019t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done.\u00a0\u00a0Read\u00a0Getting Things Done<\/a>\"\".<\/em><\/li>\n
  24. Stop following the path of least resistance.<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile.\u00a0 Don\u2019t take the easy way out.\u00a0 Do something extraordinary.<\/li>\n
  25. Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn\u2019t.<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 It\u2019s okay to fall apart for a little while.\u00a0 You don\u2019t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well.\u00a0 You shouldn\u2019t be concerned with what other people are thinking either \u2013 cry if you need to \u2013 it\u2019s healthy to shed your tears.\u00a0 The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.<\/li>\n
  26. Stop blaming others for your troubles.<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life.\u00a0 When you blame others for what you\u2019re going through, you deny responsibility \u2013 you give others power over that part of your life.<\/li>\n
  27. Stop trying to be everything to everyone.<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out.\u00a0 But making one person smile CAN change the world.\u00a0 Maybe not the whole world, but their world.\u00a0 So narrow your focus.<\/li>\n
  28. Stop worrying so much.<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy.\u00a0 One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: \u201cWill this matter in one year\u2019s time?\u00a0 Three years?\u00a0 Five years?\u201d\u00a0 If not, then it\u2019s not worth worrying about.<\/li>\n
  29. Stop focusing on what you don\u2019t want to happen.<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 Focus on what you do want to happen.\u00a0 Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story.\u00a0 If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you\u2019ll often find that you\u2019re right.<\/li>\n
  30. Stop being ungrateful.<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life.\u00a0 Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs.\u00a0 Instead of thinking about what you\u2019re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Photo by:\u00a0Rob Brucker<\/a><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

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